Focus Fashion Timeless

From the desk of WHEW WE:

“PUT THAT WOMAN FIRST ”

We as women, tend to put everything and everyone before ourselves. If you’re like me, being a giver, we want to save the world. We listen to everyone’s problems and then we do everything possible to try and fix everyone’s problems. When it comes to our families, they get the majority of our time and energy, therefore, leaving none for us to take care of ourselves. When you give and give and give, at some point it will leave you depleted and feeling empty. You then start looking around for someone to pour back into you what you’ve given them, except there’s usually no one there. It’s in this moment you realize, “things have got to change!” Putting yourself first is imperative because what kind of person can you be to your spouse, your children, your friends, and other family members if you don’t take care of you. I’m just now at the point in my life where I’m starting to put myself first. It’s been a struggle for me because I would always feel guilty and say to myself, “I could be helping someone else, never mind me!” This has been a huge mistake because physi- cally, mentally and emotionally I’m drained! I was constantly looking around for friends and family to pick me up except no one was around to do that or shall I say, I expected to get what I’ve given to so many. That didn’t happen! Now at 50, I’ve learned that I have to take care of me first so that I can take care of others in a healthy manner. I stopped giving so much of myself because all it did was leave me with hurt feelings and bitter emotions. If I see something that I want I buy it, if I want to take a trip somewhere I go, I no longer wait for someone to ask me to do things. I am still a work in progress, but I definitely see the improvement that I’ve made and I will continue to work on me. Stop where you are right now, take a self- evaluation and figure out if you’re putting out more than you’re getting back. If you find that you’re always putting others first, learn to say NO, it’s okay if you do! The key is consistency and sticking to your guns. Mostly importantly spend some time with yourself, date yourself, and splurge on yourself and lastly LOVE YOURSELF!!!

Much Love-

LaVonne Sanders – Founder of WHEW WE

36 Focus Fashion Magazine

June 2018, Timeless Edition